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So sorry to hear of your loss. Good thoughts and prayers your way. Strongs with the continuing repairs on the house and winter in a strange land. It all sounds exciting but i am sure the challenges are just as equal as the excitement.

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It's exactly that. Equal parts challenges and excitement! I can't complain. I chose this and I would choose it again. Thank you for your words and prayers 🤗

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Rahma, as someone said above your words are devastatingly beautiful. I’m so sorry for your loss. Your photos are beautiful. And it takes a lot of courage to write this kind of piece thank you for your bravery and may God reward you with something better and greater than what you have lost

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I'm so sorry for this tender loss Rahma, thank you for sharing your words & pain. I hope the waters and trees can serve as balm and nourishment, sending lots care

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Sending you love Rahma, so sorry to hear of your sad news ❤️. How lovely that your friends showed up for you and gave you comfort during this time too ❤️ x

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Thank you Jenna 🤗 To have been supported and witnessed made all the difference to me. I have learned a lot, through the actions of others, about how to offer the support. I have reflected a lot also on the importance of receiving it. It's not so easy. It goes against the cultural gran. I consider it a small act of revolution against the lie of indepence 💪🏻

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It must have been so lovely to have their support. That is such a good point too about how to offer the support because it's not always easy to know how to. We all want and need different kinds of support I think. Yes, and I agree, it's not easy to receive the support, and absolutely it is a small act of revolution that you accepted support too.

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This week I have read quite a few things that have brought the same thought to mind. Words can be so devastatingly beautiful. Sending love x

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Oh Rahma, that's so unbelievably tough. I'm so sorry for your loss and your family's loss. I agree with Sadia, it takes much courage to share what you have, and I thank you for your bravery.

It was so beautiful to read about the loving support of your community, and really refreshing to hear "yes". It is the word that I wished to say eleven years ago, but somehow I didn't feel I had the right to. I'm glad you said it. What a blessing for you, and also for those who were so willing to pour out their love and support.

And the Italian house - Yay!! Many challenges still to come I'm sure, but lots of excitement too! What a blessing to have a garden and good neighbours ❤️

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"it is the word I wished to say eleven years ago, but didn't feel I had the right to." Such beautiful and powerful words. Thank you Debbie

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Oh Rahma I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. What a crazy mix of emotions for you right now. Thankfully it sounds like you are surrounded by a lot of love 💗

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A lot of love. I guess leaning into those offers of support is also part of rooting. I feel more connected to people in a way that is wonderful but also vulnerable. Like any kind of burgeoning love I guess...

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Oh Rahma, dearest. I'm so sorry for your immense loss. Sending infinite love to you and your baby. You truly have created a real-life community there and I know how hard you worked for it. And that photo of Ayyub's little olive-filled hands pierced and filled my heart many times over <3

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Love you Rahma, from my heart to yours.

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I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm glad you have people around you who care and know how to show it. What a lovely spot for your children to sit outside, under the love tree!

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I’m sorry for your loss. May God comfort you.

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This writing makes me want to come over with some treats for your family and give you a big hug even though I haven’t met you in person yet. Thank you so much for sharing this touching story. Sending love 💕

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Treats and hugs fix all sorts of unfixable problems, I think. I've realised through this experience that sometimes, even when we feel there is nothing we can do to help, there is lots we can do to help. Like these words that you have left here for me. I love them. They help ❤️

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Your words shed light on what it's like to be in your place and therefore help open my eyes to things that I may not ever experience but can have gentleness towards.

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